Job seekers should not assume that job references are singing your praises. Are your references saying great things about you? If you are uncertain, you need to go find out. Your résumé is well-written, your interview was compelling, and sent the thank you note to seal the deal. Well, not quite done. What will your mentor, former boss, or co-worker say about you?

Are they answering phone inquiries from your potential employers?

Make sure that you have up-to-date contact information for your references. If you are currently searching, and it has been a year since talking with that person, then contact them immediately and provide them a progress report. This is a good time to reaffirm their commitment to helping you, and keep them in the loop.

Are they a willing party?

People do not want to participate after a certain point. Are you sensitive enough to acknowledge their waning desire? When seeking references in the past, I always provided an out. I needed my circle to exude excitement about helping me. Never coerce or beg participants because it can backfire on you.

Does they know the career path you are pursuing?

It helps the person giving the reference tremendously if he or she knows what career you are seeking. You can coach them (tactfully and gently) to understand what you need from them. Make sure you have the right reference, for the right skill and position. Remember, you are completely responsible for this phase to go well.

If you consider that person a mentor, listen and take their advice

We want a willing mentor simply because their judgment exceeds ours. This is the ideal job reference because it is likely that you will hear the truth. A former boss and mentor in the field we are pursuing is the best scenario. Is everyone well-versed in the functions you performed? Is the person reliable source of encouragement? If not, reconsider your choice.

What are they saying about you?

Is your reference team the main source of encouragement? Do you know what he or she saying about you? If you are playing catch up with the people who are on your job reference team, then be sure you do “due diligence” in treating them with respect, and hear what they will say to potential employers that call. Find out the times that are best to call to relay that to the reference caller.

If someone on your team is no longer fired up about helping you, cut them loose. It will serve you the best if you have a few zealots, than to have exasperated folks who feel pressured or just not interested. In addition, there comments must be positive and relevant. A willing reference could be a problem to you if they are not speaking to the current position.

Finally, treat them with a great deal of respect

This part is easy because of how critical their role is to you. Your relationship to them will either increase your enthusiasm and performance, or become disenchanted because you are using them. References can make you or break you. They validate your hard work and service, and most of all, they are doing you a big favor.

by Mark Anthony Dyson

http://blog.competitiveresumes.net